Roommates: Nightmare or Dream Come True?

Entering college is a time full of 'firsts' for new students. It can be a tough time for everyone and especially tough when getting used to a roommate situation.

Even if you have roomed with siblings, a college roommate is a whole new situation. Although it is possible to totally love your roommate and get along famously 24/7, it is far more likely that some kind of problem will crop up. There are a few hints and tips that students can keep in mind that will help in avoiding a roommate nightmare.

Its important to realize that your roommate doesn't have to be your best friend. You don't have to socialize or hang out. The only thing that is required is a measurable amount of respect. Being with someone constantly can wear on even the closest of friendships and cause strain in the relationship. Give each other enough personal space to refrain from getting on each others nerves.

Set your guidelines right away. Discuss immediately who will take out the trash on what days. Decide how late you will be entertaining each night and when it's 'lights out.' If you both know your responsibilities it is easier to see who is at fault if a disagreement arises. Knowing what you can and should expect from each other will make living together much easier.

Keep the lines of communication open and be honest. If you cant live another day watching your roommates girlfriend shave her legs in the sink, say so. If you've found moldy dishes in your desk drawer everyday this week it's time to speak up. Don't just complain to your best friend, actually speak up and let your roommate know. If you speak up when things start to bother you if keeps the situation from escalating and causing a pent up explosion later.

Give your roommate the same type of respect you would like to receive. Most problems arise from borrowing each others possessions without permission, eating each others food, having to deal with each others boyfriend/girlfriend and other guests. It's best to set the rules down for these situations early and stick to them. Keep your rights in mind and set rules accordingly. Everyone has the right to sleep and engage in leisure activities in their room, study without interference, keep your personal effects private, have a clean, safe room, entertain guests within the rights of your roommate and the speak up when your rights are infringed upon.

Most roommate squabbles are easily solved with simple communication between the two of you. But occasionally a serious problem arises and it is then you should seek the help of a campus mediator or advisor.

If you remain respectful and realize not everyday is wine and roses you'll find the benefits of a college roommate far outweigh the disadvantages. Enjoy this time in your life.

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